Knowing it is extremely cruel to teach children to be successful

To raise a child to be successful, there are many different methods of sex, including an effective secret that few parents apply is "ruthless".

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The story of a mother who used to be her child's "electric rice cooker"

"Merciful" is not easy

Use "no hit" at the right time

The journey of teaching children to be successful is not the test that the mother needs to achieve the absolute score but it is the parents' attitude and life point of view in nurturing right after birth .

Saying "no" to your child is easy but extremely difficult, especially in the Asian parenting point of view. Children are always placed in the navel of the universe. Moreover, a 3-4 generation modern family with only 1-2 lovely girls and boys, it is difficult to refuse small requests.

To teach children to be successful, parents must know how to "be heartless"

It is the indulgence that makes children sometimes do not know where to stop. The parent's definitive "no" answer will teach your child the benefits of limitation. This is a valuable lesson that when you carry your backpack to the world, you are ready to face difficulties and temptations.

The story of a mother who used to be her child's "electric rice cooker"

For those who have read the book "Extremely ruthless and extremely loving" by a Jewish mother who was born and raised in Shanghai, raising her children to become a millionaire must remember the mother "rice cooker" The female author Sara compares with the limitless way of loving children of a Chinese mother.

The educational ideology of traditional Asian mothers is still to sacrifice everything for their children. Parents may suffer, but they must make their children equal to friends. There are many families whose mothers turn off their faces to eat and drink, do clothes, take their children to school and many unnamed jobs while their children just go home to sit at the table and wait for delicious food, finish eating and rest. and go to bed.

Parents do everything just in exchange for high hopes for "You can study well and succeed, you will open your eyes to the world", that's fine!

Once such a mother, but woken up by another Jewish mother, Sara changed her motherhood. The author said: “Someone who pampered children must someday have to bandage the wound for the child. Being soft is harmful, cruel is love! "

Teaching good children: The art of saying "no" to children "No" is a short, concise word, but not all parents know how to apply it properly, especially to deny some unreasonable requests from the child's side. The following article will show you what to do and should avoid in the way of rejecting the sometimes somewhat "unruly" demands of children.

"Merciful" is not easy

Talking is easy, reading is easy, but when she acts, many mothers give up the right to use her "no" blow. Why?

Children are inherently innocent and always appear innocent when they make mistakes. How can I be angry?

Some parents have a tough childhood, parents are harsh, they feel a lack of love. And so they allow me to make up for those lost love for their children.

Parents are too busy, little time to play with their children , let alone scold and anger. And it is best to pamper yourself and your baby to be comfortable.

To be soft is to harm you, to be "heartless" is to love them. Those who pamper their children, that person will one day have to bandage their own child's wound ”.

Use "no hit" at the right time

Timely means a hard word "no" will give children confidence. But an extra "no" will make the child a negative person. Do not always deny all of a child's needs and force the child to obey because parents have authority. Parents say no when:

1. Clearly true : All children's sulked and nagging stories have a cause. Therefore, when you refuse children, you must show them that the action is wrong with the basic standards.

Children know how to eat - Parents can say "no"

2. When your child eats a meal : At the age of 1 or 2, children can test your patience by eating in a public place. Be consistent by "let alone live", that is, just ignore the child. If your baby wants to cry, do it, but the parents don't want to hear it. At first you may find it difficult to be firm and your child may find it difficult to accept. But when you see that you say do, the baby will most likely be less nagging.

3. Say “No” firmly:  You are a child and the parents are the parents. Teachers are teachers and students are students, social friends do not allow equal friendship with children, children as well as parents. So, don't argue with your answer as if you need your child's consent.