Teach good children to listen to their parents

Children, in addition to the rights protected by the law, also have a number of responsibilities to do. To teach good children, parents should learn and explain to children both the rights and responsibilities of the child.

According to Master Pham Thi Thuy, most of the reason why children do not listen is their parents.

1. Parents impose:
Parents always want the best for their children, so many parents always give out what they want their children to do, regardless of their child's feelings. Parents' arbitrary and compulsory acts not only make children not obey, but sometimes there are opposing actions.

Solution: Regular conversations, letting children express their opinions and showing respect for their ideas will help children trust their parents more. Parents should become counselors for their children, directing their children in a positive direction, and impacting them more effectively because they do not feel forced but they have the right to choose. When children see respect and understand that their parents want to be good for them, they will definitely listen to their parents completely.

Regularly talk, let children express their opinions

Lack of care from parents:
Too much work makes parents not have much time to spend with their children. Many children believe that their parents do not love them, so they do not want to cooperate with their parents. In some cases, children deliberately disobey and upset because they want their parents to take care of them more.

Solution: No matter how busy you are, parents should try to arrange a stable job to spend more time with their children, encouraging the spirit when their children do well in their assigned jobs. This measure will make children excited when being assigned by their parents.

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Lack of fairness: In families with two or more children, the inequity in the treatment of parents between their children is inevitable. The notion that brothers and sisters have to yield to children sometimes makes children feel unfair. Even though they are brothers and sisters, children are just children yet they cannot fully realize their responsibilities.

Solution:  To teach good children, parents should be skillful in distributing rights and responsibilities between children in a fair, unbiased manner between older children and young children. Because this will make children disobey their parents. Clearly dividing the responsibilities and interests of family members, explaining clearly to the children so that they can understand that they are treated fairly will make them "admire" and listen to their parents more.

4.The parents lose credibility:
Many times parents fail to promise their children because of the same number of signatures: "Because you are so busy!", "Because you forgot!" ..., will make the child disappointed, gradually losing faith in parents.

Solution: In order for children to obey, first of all, parents must be a good role model for children to follow. Should avoid conflicts and quarrels, do not lower the prestige of each other in front of children because these actions have a great impact on children's thinking. Whatever parents have promised to children, they should try to do, if they cannot do, they should not be promised because young people who trust first are parents, children will not listen to people they do not trust.

5.
Children with health and psychological problems: Children who are scolded by a teacher, bullied by a friend at school or having a psychological problem often disobey their parents.

Solution: In this case, parents should find out where the cause is. Observe, ask questions to make children feel confident and express their questions. Once they know the cause, parents should guide their children to cope with these negative emotions. Giving children the freedom to express their emotions is the best way for children to relieve stress and thereby have a more comfortable and stable mentality.

6. Children misunderstanding about children's rights: In
addition to the rights protected by the law, there are some responsibilities to do. So in order to teach good children, parents should learn and explain to children both the rights and responsibilities of the child. Although the children's responsibilities are not great, it is necessary to create the habit of living responsibly from small jobs such as housework, schoolwork, polite treatment to adults, ... When understanding rights and their responsibility, the child will voluntarily obey their parents.

Solution: In order for your child to listen and listen to what you say, you must first be a good listener. In addition, adults in the family must be unified in educating the child, avoiding the situation that one person is strictly indulged by the other.

It is not difficult for children to listen to obedience, as long as you calmly find a solution, the child will be stubborn and difficult to say as much as he will be obedient.