Experience teaching good children: How to tame a tiger cub?

Being angry, having difficulty controlling emotions, having aggressive attitudes and actions towards people around you, do you find these descriptions similar to your sweetheart? How is the secret to teaching good children in times of crisis? Try to learn the experience of the mother Apple - who has successfully "trained" the tiger cubs, moms!

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Purebred like pure tiger?

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Even with adults, controlling your emotions is sometimes not easy. Therefore, it is understandable that children are angry or do not control their emotions and actions. In particular, when entering the age of 2-3, the period of psychological crisis, the baby often has complicated psychological manifestations as well as actions.

Not out of the crisis, Apple is handsome with a handsome appearance, but has a very unique personality. Although you are a child with a lot of emotions and a good nature, you are not good at managing your emotions and tend to be violent, especially in preschool. How did Apple mother handle it? Refer to the following shared experiences from mother Apple to find out the secret to teaching good children in their own crisis, Mom!

To be able to overcome the crisis, the mother and the people around you Apple have to work very hard

Purebred like pure tiger?

Referring to the aggression of the apple, as simple as when you were 2-3 years old, the situation of your mother being "cheat" every day is very normal. One day she was sitting on the floor, suddenly you sprung down from the bed, banging your hands hard on her head, making her dizzy and dazed. Every morning calling you to wake up to school is an endless battle. Then when you get angry because you don't like something, your mother can be likened to a terrible storm. The climax is when you hit your mother's colleague in the face when she commented on your angry attitude. So since then, she did not dare to take you out or hang out with everyone.

Understand the arrogant and hot-tempered child, the mother registers to participate in some parenting courses to improve the situation. What is the tear-free Discipline application, one way after another, but sadly the result is like salt breaking. Many friends and relatives advised their mothers to punish them with a whip. Even when I went to the pagoda to invite my masters, my mother also received advice: Being pure like a pure tiger, putting a tiger in a cage sooner or later will lose its morale and ferocious nature.

When the whip escalation comes to an end, is the tiger still normal, or is it pathetic and extremely discouraged?

However, more than anyone, I understand the whip is not a solution for both Mom and Apple. Just one hit, maybe that day you will give up, but the next day, you will fight your mother with the same attitude. How to solve this, perhaps increasing the level of hitting children? And then when this escalation of the whip comes to an end, how pathetic and discouraging will your baby tiger be? Mom and you keep struggling in a long, long, long struggle for power. Mother was all soft, hard, method after method. Until one day she found her own last method of teaching children: Tame from herself first.

Teach your children to control their emotions: Big conception! For adults, controlling your emotions is inherently difficult. Therefore, it is understandable that children are worried, angry, sad, unable to control their emotions. However, if you do not set a limit on the child's behavior and thoughts early, you will have a headache when faced with many troublesome consequences from ...

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"Single-hearted painting", every time the mother is stressed because of the pressure, busy, the more spoiled, the more naughty, rebellious. Therefore, the mother is more likely to get mad, lose control, scold, or even hit her child. The first thing you need to do is learn to control your own anger . She starts off with basic measures like wearing a bracelet on her dominant hand so she can see it, and stops at the right moment when she reaches up to hit her. Next must be to mention the method of giving up all, focusing outside on breathing, releasing all the discomfort and irritability in the body.

Thanks to that, I learned that you turned out to be my own mirror. Heavily influenced by the stressful mood from the mother, the child becomes aggressive. I am violent because my mother is violent with my child. The way a mother manages her emotions is how she teaches her children to manage their own emotions.

Phase two, mother practice expressing more affection, starting from hard saying: "I love you". The first 1-2 weeks, the utterance is difficult as a simple procedure, but a little while later, the mother can naturally speak with a lot of emotions and feelings. Gradually, she felt her overwhelming emotions reassuring herself. At this time, the child becomes much more gentle, often smiling and leaning against his mother.

Finally, I practice hugging you and expressing your love when you get angry. This has been very difficult indeed, especially when the mother is tired and stressed. However, every time a mother gets rid of her own temper, self-esteem, turns to express her affection, and holds her child earnestly, it is a miracle medicine to help both children and mother cool down the fastest.

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Of course, all of the above, I did it little by little, time not in days but in years. Every effort and effort of mother is to tame the tiger in the mother, to let me know love is the best medicine, is the reason for me to walk together in this life. Since then, the mother has better self-modifications, and the best part is that her children love, care and gradually reduce violence. That road is still long, but I believe once you find the right direction, you both need to keep moving forward.