Hit the childs butt: Wrong teaching

Every time a baby makes a mistake, parents often hit the child's butt with a whip as an instinct to anger without knowing that this action seriously affects the child's psychology in the future.

Research has shown that, instinctively, parents don't want to hit their kids with a whip, but other than that, parents don't know what else to do when a child makes a mistake. Butt beats only teach children to be aggressive and violent when solving problems. Children who are beaten by their parents like this tend to have less self-esteem, become discouraged, and take low-paying jobs as adults. So what should parents do every time a child makes a mistake instead of hitting the butt?

Keep calm

First, when you feel angry, unable to control and want to hit your child's buttocks or touch your ears, parents should move away and calm down and calm down. In that silence, parents can find an alternative and a solution to the problem. Sometimes parents are unable to control their anger because of too much stress in their life. If you can't leave, you can also suppress your anger by counting to 10.

Make time for yourself

Parents tend to hit their baby's buttocks when they don't have time for themselves and feel exhausted, angry and in a hurry. Therefore, taking time for yourself is essential. Parents can relieve self-pressure by spending a little time exercising , reading, taking a walk, or praying.

Another frustrating situation in which parents want to hit their child's buttocks is when a baby stubbornly makes a disagreement. Finally, you have to hit your buttocks to remind your child to behave properly. Another solution for these situations is to sit down close to your child and look into the baby's eyes, gently touch and tell them short truths, showing tolerance but also firmly asserting what you are. want you to do it, for example: "I want you to play in silence".

Give your child choices

If your child plays with food on the table, parents might ask a question, "Do you want to stop playing with food or leave the table?". If your baby continues to play with food, parents need gentle but decisive actions to help them leave the table. Then tell your child that they can come back to the table when they are ready to eat properly without playing with the food.

Actions to deal with the consequences associated with the children's behaviors can teach children a lesson in responsibility. For example, when they saw the child accidentally broke the neighbor's window, parents should meekly: “I saw you broke the window. What are you going to do to fix the error? ”. When deciding to mow the lawn or wash a neighbor's car to make up for the cost of a damaged door, you will learn that mistakes are inevitable in life and it's important to recognize them and fixes. Children will not feel frustrated or hate their parents and most importantly, their self-esteem is protected intact.

Control conflicts arise

When children respond to their parents in a disrespectful manner, they will be easily accepted. Instead, parents should avoid face away, should not leave children any anger or frustration. Tell your child that you are willing to speak when they are more respectful and respectful. Instead of brushing hands or hitting buttocks when children accidentally touch something, parents should kindly take their children to another room, give them toys or other objects to let them forget.

Aggression is a typical form of violence. Domestic violence  is beatings on the child's buttocks because it hurts a child's self-esteem, lowers their enthusiasm, makes them incontinent and doesn't want to cooperate. There are many other solutions, but the guideline is still a way for parents to be calmer and know how to encourage their children.

Being a parent is never easy. However, if parents really try and apply alternative methods of violent acts such as hitting the buttocks to reprimand, parents can raise their children easily and much more effectively.