Parents are busy, so outside of their children's time in kindergarten, the grandparents are the closest to the child. But what if grandparents teach bad habits?
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Even though your growing child has 8 hours at school a day, he suffers from bad (or good) habits from his grandparents, who take care of each day when his parents are busy.
Unfortunately, you begin to realize that your children are being influenced by their grandparents' bad habits. For example, watch TV all day instead of playing with toys and shouting like commands when your baby wants anything instead of asking for help.
You still want to ask your grandparents but want your children to stay away from those "terrible" habits. Although it is a perfectionist, it is imperative that you perform it skillfully if you do not want to "lose your heart" to your grandparents and spoil your children.
Give your grandparents a list of games to play with your baby
Before “filing a complaint” with your parents, you should think about gentle explanations to the grandparents about how they care for their grandchildren. Perhaps due to age issues, they do not have the energy and the ability to move to keep an active child busy with hundreds of mischief!
Or you may have forgotten how to play with young children, so you cannot come up with ideas for play that stimulate your baby's excitement. If one or both people have vision or hearing difficulties, this may limit what they can do with your child during the day.
And remember that if your grandparents don't realize that you disagree with the way they play with your child, they will think you are satisfied with their standard of child care.
Of course, another option is to hire a babysitter. If you can afford and choose to do this, you need to be skillful in communicating with your grandparents to avoid hurting their feelings.
Remember that your grandparents will be very upset with your proposal. Discuss your concerns with your husband sincerely and deeply and weigh the pros and cons carefully until you both agree on what to do next.
When you make your choice, explain to your grandparents that you have made a good arrangement with your hiring, and want them to have more comfortable time. The choice case sticks to the current arrangement, offering suggestions for changes to improve the current situation.
Here are some helpful suggestions:
Children love to play with a variety of toys and lots of fun activities every day. Give the grandparents a list of suitable games. They may welcome this proposal as it gives them a plan to choose from.
Also remind your grandparents that your child likes to spend time with others his or her age. It is also a good idea to ask your grandparents to take the baby to see their friends. This allows the baby to develop his or her social skills.
Instead of complaining about bad habits your kids learn from grandparents, talk to grandparents about how you want your kids to behave in specific situations - for example, to ask for good, to share things players need to say "please" and "thank you".
Ask grandparents to encourage these positive habits whenever they can.
You may be surprised to find that grandparents have changed their child care style after you discussed them with them. That would be great for everyone.
But if you find that the parental care pattern remains the same in spite of your recommendation, you can decide it's time to choose different caregivers.
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