Parenting: Are you expecting too much?

Parents always want their children to have a bright future, for that reason, we often set high standards for babies. However, parenting is a journey where the lines between encouragement and pressure are slim. To know when your baby is feeling overwhelmed and help her balance back, you need to quickly grasp some of the following indicators.

Baby no longer shares with you

If you discover that your baby is hiding some unhappy things he has encountered, such as poor grades, being bullied ... it may be because you often show disappointment or anger every time they encounter that situation. They need to feel like you are a support, a safe place to share and get advice after each failure or when it comes to dealing with fears.

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Your baby loses interest in something

If you have a boy who plays football hard every day, and then one day, the boy suddenly doesn't want to touch the ball, or a girl learns to draw very hard every day but doesn't want to draw more. That may be because you are demanding on your baby's skills. Try talking more to see what problems are hindering your baby's love.

You are too heavy on results

A score of 7 obtained by your own thinking, by your own exploration and effort is much better than a 10 from looking at someone else's work or studying without creativity. Therefore, parents need to consider the whole baby's trying process instead of just one outcome.

When you follow your baby closely, you will correctly evaluate your ability and give reasonable targets

You always think "I can do better"

No longer feel satisfied and happy when participating in activities with your child. All your child's activities, from music to sports, from doing experiments to a picnic, will haunt you with the thought “I could have done much better than that”. Putting this thought aside and simply enjoying your time with your children, you will find yourself much happier.

I was bored and tired

The girls and boys who are overloaded in studying often have psychological or physical fatigue. If you find your child constantly exhausted, exhausted, perhaps the schedule is too full or he feels that he must be under too much pressure.

Children often experience injuries while playing sports

That may be a warning that your baby is training at his or her level. If this comes from a parent's request, you need to actively reduce the pressure on your child.

A little bit of pressure will help your baby try and strive more, but don't force your baby to be too overwhelmed to follow your expectations. Strict performance requirements often lead to misunderstandings about your love. Children easily think that you only love them when they win a victory, a certain success. Instead, you need to let your children know that you love who they really are, even without a medal or a certificate of merit.