You have a lot of things you want your children not to commit, but on the children's side, they also have a lot of dislike about their parents. We adults sometimes forget this simple logic because we think we are powerful and intelligent enough to know what is best for us. But do not forget that parents - children are a two-way relationship and whether this relationship becomes good depends on understanding and mutual respect.
So what do children usually dislike about parents? It could be some invisible behavior that repeated over and over and became a dark spot in the "home style" or the words "let go of the parents" but overall, children all over the world. Gender is from the state ... incomprehensible to hating the following parental actions:
Break a promise
Occasionally, parents promise to make promises to their children that they will buy their favorite toys if they do well in school or take them to zoos, parks, to visit grandparents if their children are good ... go with a lot of work and forget those promises . For us, sometimes it's just a small thing, now if we don't do it, we will do it tomorrow, but for children, it is a whole goal, a big project they are pursuing. And when they remind, parents have many "rice husk reasons" to explain their swallowing words and then make promises, but repeated a few times like that, children will no longer believe us. In addition, they will learn very quickly how to "cover up" when they do not keep their promises.
Save promises with your children, but once you do, do as you plan. Do not accidentally instill hope in children and turn into disappointment.
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Too protective
Every parent wants their children to be healthy and safe. But as children get older, they want to discover things in their own way. Running, climbing, playing ... with friends are good exercises for the young body and spirit, but sometimes it is a bit dangerous. And how sad they will be if they are "banned" by their parents for fear of danger.
Teach your children how to protect themselves safely, the knowledge necessary to take care of themselves and let them integrate with the world and know how to stand up after small stumbles to be strong tomorrow before life. That is the best love and protection for children. Maybe they fall this time so they will be more careful another time.
Refuse help
When you see that their parents are too busy, the good kids will want to be helped, but you fiercely reject them with the familiar saying: "I go ... somewhere else to play" without knowing that it will hurt the child. . You should be happy when your child asks us to do that because he is a very intelligent child, loving parents and has a sense of responsibility. Give the child the right things and meticulous instructions on how to do it. Children will be very happy and feel helpful.
Ignored
Although you know you are extremely tired with 1001 daily jobs, but ignoring them when children talk to you or ask questions is a common but extremely serious mistake for parents. The questions fall to nothing, children always have to monologize alone or only receive the words "let go of their parents", they will be very angry. No matter how busy you are, you should praise the "artwork" that your children draw and show off to you or explain thoroughly why the cat is meowing and the dog is fussy ... Those are "very important ”to children.
Irrational anger
Who does not get stressed at work or become irritable, but you absolutely must not vent on children. Children cannot understand why they are scolded for eating food for a long time, for running around in the house. Children need to be taught to understand and do the right thing, not do what their parents want them to do. So expect and force the child to go as fast as you do, force the child to stop crying when he or she is in pain ... Understand the child's ability and let the child bring into full play what they can do and help the child develop on schedule natural logic.
Not what children want
You buy a very expensive toy or set of clothes for your child to get annoyed by the fact that they don't care about them. Remember, that's what you think is good, not young. Children do not like it because it is not suitable. Children do not eat does not mean they are sick, but sometimes they cannot swallow food that is not of good taste. Do not try to guess, if possible, ask children what they like or try to remember their attitudes and interests so that they can give them things that make them laugh.
Saying no goes with doing
We adults tell children not to stay up late, but always commit violations, tell them to love others, but coldly shake their heads at the beggar in front of them. No matter how you explain it, children cannot understand why staying up late is harmful to children, but harmless to adults or because it's difficult for people to refuse to help. Children always see their parents, the surrounding adults as an example to follow. When words don't go hand in hand, we unintentionally lose our child's respect.
When children are a little older, they can understand the complexities of life. As a child, they will think what to say, do so and also expect adults to treat them like that. Every adult was a child, please step into the childish world again to understand how your baby is growing up.