We cannot press the button to undo our words. Therefore, in any situation, if we accidentally say what should not be said, we will create a negative impression on the child. They can become angry, inferior or naughty ...
Here are some of the most common "should not say" statements in mothers and fathers:
1. “Because parents are adults” - When you say this to your child, you give a reason, a half-hearted argument. This is not a good explanation for children to know why they are not allowed to do this or that. In this case, the only thing you give your child is the age difference!
2. "Mother always helps me all" - Do you know that you are instilling a habit of relying on children? Children can be assured that their mother is always defending her, not scolding her even if she makes other friends or breaking up furniture.
3. "I am young, I do not understand yet" - This is a avoidance sentence that parents often use in many situations, especially when faced with the sorrowful questions of the child. Therefore, instead of answering through speakers, try to explain in the way that is most appropriate for them so that they can understand. Only then, the communication between you and your child will really be effective.
4. "I said, don't you remember" - This is a rather "arbitrary" warning and it does not bring any useful information!
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5. “My sister / brother when I was the same age I was able to do this myself” - With this statement, children tend to react negatively such as turning to hate their older sister or self-esteem. . If you say this, you are paving the way for confrontation between children and siblings.
6. "Don't know why a mother can give birth to such a child" - If you don't know, who might know? This statement can hurt your child a lot. Children will feel that they are useless and no longer loved by their parents.
7. "Mom is so tired, I leave you alone" - Does not require you to always respond to all children's tricks, but you should not "refuse" in such a serious way because young children are very are sensitive to words from adults.
8. “Please wait until your father or mother is at home before you can do it” - You can make your children think that they are not trustworthy!
9. "You upset me so much" - This is obvious! Once you have a baby, understand that your stress level will increase, not decrease! So, do not miss out on your words and blame them with your children.
10. "These are man for you to do right" - You are totally guilty for their children and young people can understand in a different way that their negative vulnerable to other people fooled, lured to cause these damages.
Therefore, every time you communicate with children, you should always be careful with words because children are very sensitive and can understand parents' words in negative directions very naturally!